How to Submit to your husband

I like the way this woman puts it.... 

1. The first step to submitting to your husband is to first submit to God. If your motivation is to please your husband- what happens if he does not respond as quickly as you would like or the way you would like? This step, total submission to God, will give you the proper motivation- you are doing this to please God not your spouse. James 4:6-7 says, "But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: "God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble." 7Therefore submit to God."
By humbling yourself before God, you surrender (submit) your life to Him.

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God created the hierarchy of the home as follows: Christ, husband, wife, children. When this order is out of whack, chaos follows. The husband must look to Christ for guidance and instruction. (Notice that he also must submit to the will of God- not just the wife.) Ephesians 5:22-24 says, "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23For the husband is head of the wife, as Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." The wife must look to the husband with respect. Now this one passage scares most women into thinking that she must do whatever her husband says, even if it goes against every fiber in her being and without question. It also has caused some husbands to be overbearing, demanding, and just plain mean when they read it. But, if you read ahead a bit it says that "husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself."(Ephesians 5:28). Throughout the bible there are references on how a husband should love his wife- not abuse her.

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Another important step is your attitude. Biblical submission has so much to do with your attitude. For example, let's say my husband has a "wonderful" idea to make money... he's going to quit his job and sell palm trees for a living (I live in East Texas). Option 1: I say to myself , "OK, I will submit like a good wife, but I am going to make sure that he knows how stupid I think he and his idea are". In this option I am not really submitting to my husband, or to God for that matter. If the idea fails I will have an "I told you so" attitude and no one will be happy- not me, not hubby, and not God. Option 2: I say to myself, "OK, Lord, our lives are in your hands. I pray that you help me be supportive, helpful and loving. Give my husband clarity and discernment as he is trying to better our lives" With this option, I realize that God is in control and he will provide for us as he always does. No matter what the outcome, I am blessed, hubby is happy and God is pleased.

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Now as I said in the beginning, this is not easy. But Christ never said His way was easy- He only said that he would always be with you. Keep working at it- your attitude, your prayers- and you will begin to see a difference in your marriage, your home and your life. One step closer to the Proverbs 31 woman!

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